We all have wants. We all make choices, every day, that either take us toward what we want or take us further away.
Do we really want what we have chosen? Are we making choices to lead us to what we want?
Every choice we make leads us to a destination. The key is to recognize and understand where our choices are taking us.
We all want good friendships. If we choose to associate with people who bring us down, then we are not making choices toward good friendships.
We all want to be healthy. If we never exercise, our choice is not moving us toward health.
For those who desire a relationship, maintaining connections with undesirable partners is not moving toward a healthy relationship. But for some, that is all they know how to choose.
No one can change your choices but you. If you want different results, consider the steps it will take to get the results you want, and then map out a realistic plan to achieve those results. Then, start making choices to lead you to that result.
Oftentimes, if your space is taken up by an undesirable object or person, there is no room for the desired objects or person. Sometimes choosing the negatives in your life will push out the positives. You usually cannot have both.
If you want good friendships, disassociate with those who are bringing you down. If you want to be healthier, find one thing you can do to move in that direction.
Beginning to make choices that take you where you want to go leads to increased momentum. The closer you get to your goal, the more motivated you may become and the more new ideas might arise to help lead you in the new direction.
If you look at your life -- friendships, job, education, health -- and something is missing, develop a plan to achieve it. But first be willing to lay aside the old so that you can focus your energies on the new.
